I know a lot of our teens are well aware of the recent incident between Chris Brown & Rihanna, 2 of the most popular entertainers in the world.  My youth group teenagers could probably tell me more than whats being said on tv, cause it’s only like they were right there when it happened. lol.  But so much has been said, even Jay Z saying Chris Brown is a dead man walking. (Sound like Biggie vs 2Pac Round 2)

Wow.  But every Tuesday I get the opportunity to speak to teens about anger management and the importance of controlling their anger.  So this Chris Brown situation is so “LIVE”, I thought I would give my .02 cents from my point of view.

If there is anything you and I could do for both parties is to pray for them.  They are both young, under 20 years of age.  Still babies to the game.  I always tell people we all go through stuff, so that we can learn from them and make better choices the next time the opportunity presents itself.  It can also be a lesson to the younger generation.  Especially fans of Chris Brown and Rihanna.

Here are my .02 cents now that I gave my intro, take what you want from this and share it with someone if you want.

1. I don’t know what exactly went down with Chris Brown and Rihanna but I know this much Anger doesnt just leave bruises on other people, but also you too.  Rihanna was hurt and bruised up pretty bad. What I think a lot of us don’t understand is that when you hurt other people, your in actuality hurting yourself.  My aunt was a victim of someone hurting her and robbing her to the point she had to have surgery to recover.  It took her a while to recover and I believe the same thing may be true for Rihanna.  Not just emotionally but also physically.  When I teach anger management at the school, I let the teens know that uncontrolled anger can turn into rage.
2. For so long the media has had this stigma eye for an eye.  So if someone hurts you, you need to get even.  But thats not they way to go about it, especially with people you love. Violence is pretty much the worst way in the world to resolve any problem. Violence is not the way to go about it. Our motto in the Anger Management class is “Anyone who angers you, conquers you.” ((((Now I will defend my wife and future baby Harmeni if they are being harmed. lol. So don’t test me))))
3. 1 of the question I ask my classes is….if you punch a wall in, will the anger go away?  Most times teenagers answer yes!  Maybe for a couple of hours it will, but unresolved anger will only get worst. Chris Brown grew up in an abusive home according to a blog I was reading from. On the regular he would see his stepfather beat his mother and admitted that it created a rage inside of him.   We did a drama off of this, a couple of Wednesdays ago in our Youth Group, because I believe thats what a lot of our teens are seeing in their homes. THATS CRAZY and maybe that is why Chris Brown acted the way he did. That is what he was use to seeing.

Please understand I’m not judging Chris Brown, just giving my .02 cents.  The best way to deal with anger is to first admit you have a problem.  And seek help!  We offer free classes at Life Impact where I work.  Don’t let it get too far.  FOR REAL!! You making millions of dollar, dating a super star wife in Rihanna, and about to perform at the Grammys!  As my dad would ask me….WHAT WERE YOU THINKING!!!

Just my .02 cents!